I posed two questions to my FB friends and fans of my FB page about a week ago.

What motivates you to be active and eat healthy?


What has been holding you back from exercising and eating healthy meals?

An interesting thing happened.

Most people who answered the first question above about what motivates them, talked about external reasons, rather than internal ones.

Things like, I want to look like I used to when I was younger, I want to look better in my clothes, even I want to be able to eat lots of pizza. All things that come from outside influences that make them want to do better.

When people answered the second question about what holds them back, people seemed to internalize their answers a little bit more initially before I dug a little deeper with their responses.

Most would start off with the generic answers of I don’t have enough time or something along those lines, but they immediately followed up in the same comment with something along the lines of “but I know that’s a bullshit answer and really I need to stop being lazy.”

Ok, first things first, not having a lot of free time to get in a workout is a very real problem for a large part of the population.

Could we all be a little more active throughout our daily routines?

Of course, we can.

Is it realistic to ask a parent who is already working upwards of 50 hours a week, to manage to get in an hour at the gym 4x/week?

If you’re a parent (which I’m not yet) you probably know it’s really hard to be consistent with this. Your schedule is probably packed so full, that any tiny hiccup would be the straw that breaks the camel’s back, and the first thing to go is the gym.

I get that.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t make time for yourself or make your health a priority, but I am getting a little sick of the bullshit getting perpetuated within my industry of the “Don’t tell me you don’t have enough time to workout, anyone can make time,” kind.

That leaves no room for where most people live which is the middle ground.

More importantly, it often ties an element of self-worth to it, or lack thereof, where you start to think you’re lazy, even when you legit didn’t have any real time to dedicate to the gym today.

This is bull-fucking-shit!

Lazy people don’t work 50 hours or more per week in addition to being a parent.

Here’s the thing about the trend that I noticed that really becomes scary though.

Everyone seemed to be internalizing all the negative shit and attaching it (even if their comments came off as lighthearted) to their own self-worth, whereas when they talked about what motivates them, it often came from a place that didn’t have the same effect.

It was rare that someone answered that question with a comment about how they feel great about themselves now, or anything that would attach itself to a positive aspect of their self-worth.

The few people who did not do this, they also happen to be some of the healthiest, happiest, and fittest people I know…..hmmmm……. wonder why?

The truth is you need to find ways to stop internalizing the negative shit. That stuff that tells you, “I’m not good enough,” or “I’ll never look as good as…”.

Kill that noise.

Instead start focusing on things you do well, and then start to build some momentum.

I know you understand that consistency is the key to reaching our fitness goals, and staying healthy long term, but the first step is breaking the inertia.

You can’t be consistent if you never start.

Once you start, celebrate the little victories. Seriously,

You made it to the gym twice this week? Awesome, give yourself a pat on the back, and try to replicate that again next week. Fuck it, give yourself some sort of small reward even (one that doesn’t reverse the effects of exercises preferably, like eating a large pizza by yourself).

When you can, add in an extra day. Once you do, celebrate that shit too. Once you’ve got a little momentum going, it’s a lot easier to stay consistent.

Maybe getting to the gym isn’t in the cards for you right now, that’s fine. You can still start eating some healthy meals.

Try starting with something small like drinking 6-8 glasses of water, eating vegetables with every meal, or something along those lines that is totally manageable, and then add healthy eating habits to this every few weeks.

The key here with all of this, whether it’s going to the gym or eating more nutritious foods, is starting with something manageable, committing to that goal, and then kicking your goal right in the nut sack like you were David Beckham.

You can do this, because you’re a Rockstar.

The sooner you believe this fact, and start to let go of the reasons you don’t think you’re good enough, the sooner you’ll really start kicking ass and start making this whole healthy lifestyle thing a heck of a lot easier.


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